My first English blog entry--About Parenting

In our life time, we might find tons of thousands of things to be hardly achieved. It is hard to be a honored "full A" student; it is hard to be a successful professor; it is hard to be an outstanding employee. However, it is even harder to be good parents--a 7/24 life-long role.

I am a mom of a four-year-old boy and expecting our second child at the same time. Although my son has not reached his teen age, which could be the most scaring age for most parents, I started to realize the importance of the quality of parenting and of the hardness of it.

Most of the time, I am so proud of him and think that he is an angel coming to my world. Like yesterday, we bought him a new bycicle with "Lightening Mcqueen" logo on it, which is his favorate cartoon figure. However, since it is his first toddler bycicle, he seemed a bit akward at the beginning. He even didn't know how to clime on it. After my husband spending almost one hour assembling the bike, we helped him settle his helmet and knee guard. We showed him how to pedal the bike and how to control the handlebar at the same time... Ten minutes later, when he is confidently riding his bike 15 feet in front of us, I am so moved and so proud of him. I told my husband that I felt something lingering on the edge of my eyelid... Actually, this reminded me his first steps when he was learning how to walk. Time just passed so fast, he is no longer a fatty baby boy; no longer the boy crying whole day long during his first days to school. He is a big boy now--an upcoming elder brother of our expecting baby.

With his growth, I find out that it is usually not as easy as I thought to get along with kids. Or, in another word, hard to control them. As parents, we always hope that our kids could be reasonable, generous and have good personalities. However, it is such a long way to educate them or train them to be what we want them to be, sometimes, even impossible. The only way to guide them to right behavior is to do the same thing yourself.

When I first realized that my son started to yell to me, I know that the first thing I need to do is not blaming him but to control my temper and manner even when I am angry with him. He is always learning from me!

The best lesson I have learnt from my parenting experience is that always be assertive but kind even when pointing out what they have done wrong. Meanwhile, we should always adjust ourselves based on kids' reaction for better communication and understanding.